Saving Emotions Happy, It's How ...

KOMPAS.com - Most people want to be happy and pursue it in many ways. But not everyone knows how happy it right. For example, there are still those who think that happy is synonymous with wealth and popularity. Then he hard work etc, and rich. But ultimately did not find happiness.

That is wrong. Look no fewer tycoons and top artists committed suicide. They are just rich and property names but still poor happy. Happy is a positive emotion, which we need throughout life, especially in the current difficult and bad situation. Formed since childhood happiness. Fostered by parental affection, good relations with neighbors and a healthy faith.
Happy emotion grows as it goes through various experiences good and bad, positive-negative situation BALANCED. Yes, happiness is to enjoy the pleasure and pain equally. That's why they are TOO spoiled as a child can be emotionally problematic in adulthood. Similarly, children are more likely to suffer because of abusive treatment of father or mother.
Life is like a wheel. Sometimes above sometimes below. So there are times when we are happy, no sad time. A time to gain, sometimes poor. A time to get, sometimes losing. Yes there is a time for everything, says Solomon. Not always people like us, sometimes we hated. Today praised, eh tomorrow the same people can berate us. More painful when the people closest to betray us.
Our bodies are not always healthy, get sick at any time. There is also a suffering friend to many years as the author's father who had suffered from ill almost 2 years. That's it. Life is like the weather, that is not always hot sometimes rainy season. In summary, happy is learning to enjoy the pleasure and pain equally. People were happy in the happy not to forget myself, and in poor condition not sulk or curse.
Saving happy emotionsSo how do you save emotions happy? Remain strong in difficult times? Before the hard, bitter experience, or the pain is coming prepare yourself. As the Prophet Joseph was wise to prepare the seven years of famine to save grain in the abundance, we also need to save the emotions happy.
As the proverb says, "willing umbrella before it rains". Or children from childhood immunizations need to be immune to the disease while attacking. So we also need to save the emotions happy. The trick? Remember and write down all the positive experiences: the sacrifice of parents, teachers compassion, and kindness friends. Accepted and appreciated the beauty of the love we. As well as other experiences that make our hearts happy and positive emotions. Counting every blessing God. In addition we are happy emotion recorded in a diary or a computer, "notes" also in tablets of your hearts forever grateful to the Divine.
Once written, share happiness. By way of telling it as often as possible, while there is a chance. This is the best way to save emotion happy. Moto Pelikan Indonesia where I work is: "share the suffering the suffering will be reduced, share the happiness will increase your happiness." When a difficult time when it comes, or illness strikes, we can use the memory had to steel myself. We stay strong, do not complain or sulk.
When we are sad, we take the "savings" happy emotions. Given that we had a great time and so on. Considering a lot of people who (have) delight us. At the moment we are unfortunate, cheated or harmed people, we take the "savings" benefit. Yes, we are ever lucky to get gifts and kindness to our dear ones. Business we ever lucky. Occasional failure or loss, it is natural.
Pendulum Life
I analogize the rhythm of our lives like a "swing" or pendulum. Who is capable swing swing, would be happy even in times of trouble. The problem most of our clients in the counseling room was not large or severity of the problem. But because they are not prepared to face problems in life. Not ready for the worst. For example, married couples would imagine more beautiful weddings, but never learning the skills to face various problems in the marriage. Is it disease, lack of economic or problem child with special needs.
Generally, parents are happy to have children, but they do not prepare and mental skills if their child is in trouble. Exposed to drug addiction, for example. Some have even been afraid to face the problem. They consider the difficulties that scourge to be avoided or shunned. In fact the best attitude, the problem was undertaken or face. Not avoid or run away from the problem. In counseling, we help clients to understand the facts of life is a struggle. Life is a struggle.
We need to quit blaming attitudes and behavior or blame someone else. Stop yourself from regret or blame themselves. Better energy emotions and thoughts were deployed to deal with the problem. With a clear mind, we look for solutions with friends and people you trust. Everyone has problems. The difficulty does not show us weak. No. The difficulties do not mean to undermine HE allow, conversely, mature. Creating a balanced life more beautiful and colorful.
All the challenges of life is ordinary or usual temptation, do not exceed our strength. God knows what is best and what we can bear. Sometimes we are inclined to exaggerate the problem, or prefer to save or run away rather than face it. Wrong response is what makes our lives feel heavy load. We also need to develop an optimistic attitude (faith) and hopeless, that storm definitely passed the problem. Every problem there is a "graduation" of his. Even if you feel "rice has become porridge", believe buburpun can be a delicious chicken porridge. For believers, the tragedy could be a "comedy" and frustration into achievement. The attitude of a winner is always best to rely on God.
Life like a swing. There is sadly no fun, sometimes this gracious sometimes unfortunate. Live like a pendulum for a while to the left and move to the right. Ayun, follow the rhythm. Do not focus on the sadness. Remember, we are never happy. Do not focus on the weaknesses of a partner, he was something different. Ayun continue bandulmu, ya swing it to run balanced. Let's just say life is like a game that is fun and exciting, as well as "Have fun". Learning to rejoice in all things, and remember we are not alone.
Peacemakers
Savings happy emotions can be increased by developing the spirit of forgiveness, peace-loving alias. Consider this ancient advice, "Blessed are you who brought peace" is still relevant for us. This life principle tells us to be happy. We are asked to distribute the peace of others. Especially those that are not have peace. A conciliator has a forgiving spirit. They ably be mediator for others in conflict. Certainly people who are not at peace with itself may not be able to distribute this peace.
Instead it has the potential to make other people feel peace alias disappointed. They are deficit sense of peace and love, a potential personal conflict-prone. Although KNOW it's good peace and make peace with each other MAU but he will not be ABLE to do it. Only those who make peace with God and himself could bring peace to others. Peace is the fruit of happiness. Unhappy means enjoying the pleasure and pain equally. Happiness makes one stable, resilient and fighting spirit. Good capital to build a career and a family.
Happy people are willing to pay the price for the sake of his enemies. Conversely, those who are unhappy love to see other people (enemies) fail and suffer. Poor empathy. Unhappy people are reluctant to see the people who had hurt him happy. He (still) keep envy and anger. Meanwhile, there are also people who pretend to peace, conflict free. They are willing to live HYPOCRITES be accepted each other. Be seen as forgiving.
False sense of peace and the false peacemaker is much around us. Wise people can tell the difference. Blessed are ye that brings peace. Yes, happiness begins with peace. Unhappy begins with forgiveness. Because forgiveness is DOOR peace and happiness. But unfortunately, the door was small and cramped inaccessible without bending alias humble. Thanks for reading, comments and vote.
Sources: http://health.kompas.com/read/2013/02/12/07555285